Dating, New York Times, Relationships

NYTimes article: “An Inside Look at Your Favorite Dating Sites”

Many, many of my clients engage in online dating, and one thing I can share is that it's often a stressful experience for everyone!  Here's an article from the New York Times which interviews several founders of popular dating sites with insights on online dating statistics, managing expectations, and tips for success.

Communication, Conflict, Dating, Emotions / Feelings, Relationships

How Should I Bring It Up? Tips for raising sensitive subjects (Part 1 of 2)

A great deal of the work I do with clients are helping them 1) identify what they are feeling/needing and 2) finding ways to express what they are feeling/needing. Feelings exist for all of us, whether we're able to put words to the feelings or not.  Some of us are more naturally in tune with… Continue reading How Should I Bring It Up? Tips for raising sensitive subjects (Part 1 of 2)

Dating, Relationships

Great Chemistry Does Not Guarantee A Great Relationship

Most of us have met potential romantic partners with whom we share great chemistry.  These connections can be thrilling and special because they're so hard to find.  Chemistry means that almost-immediate connection with another person on many levels: great rapport, talking nonstop about anything and everything, sharing many of the same interests and hobbies, and… Continue reading Great Chemistry Does Not Guarantee A Great Relationship

Relationships

Relationship “Work” #1: Daily Acts of Connection

Part 1 of a 3-part series When talking about relationships, we often speak of the "work" we need to do in order to maintain a healthy, fulfilling relationship.  "Work" in a relationship entails many actions, steps, and attitudes, but today I wanted to focus on relationship work #1: daily acts of connection. Daily acts of… Continue reading Relationship “Work” #1: Daily Acts of Connection

Relationships

NYT article: “How To Have A Better Relationship”

There's a great article in the New York Times today entitled "How To Have A Better Relationship" - the article gives an overview of healthy relationship qualities, some interesting stats and figures, as well as links to some relationship quizzes you and your partner can take together. Click here to read the article!  - Lovers with… Continue reading NYT article: “How To Have A Better Relationship”

Relationships

What exactly does it mean to “work” on a relationship?

Many of my clients understand that relationships take work.  What is often less clear is what exactly is meant by "work" in a relationship.  Sometimes people stay in bad relationships for a long time, believing that they just need to keep "working" at it, when no amount of work is going to salvage the relationship… Continue reading What exactly does it mean to “work” on a relationship?

Conflict, Relationships

Conflict & Tension

Conflict is 100% natural in relationships.  Sometimes in couples’ therapy, my clients say “we never fight” to indicate the strength of their relationship.  But in fact, if you don’t ever have a conflict with your partner, that’s actually a red flag - it usually means that one or both persons are withholding their true thoughts… Continue reading Conflict & Tension