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Presence

Autumn

"Life starts all over again when it gets crisp in the fall."  - F Scott Fitzgerald Here in Chicago, it's finally turned to autumn - chillier days and nights, rainy, gloomy mornings, brisk, golden afternoons, leaves falling, Halloween decorations popping up in the neighborhoods, days getting shorter and darker, and sweaters and the classic Chicago… Continue reading Autumn

Conflict, Relationships

Conflict & Tension

Conflict is 100% natural in relationships.  Sometimes in couples’ therapy, my clients say “we never fight” to indicate the strength of their relationship.  But in fact, if you don’t ever have a conflict with your partner, that’s actually a red flag - it usually means that one or both persons are withholding their true thoughts… Continue reading Conflict & Tension

Communication

It’s Not What You Say – It’s How You Say It

None of us are born knowing how to communicate perfectly with other people.  Some of us are born with better role models of communication, where we watched adults and caregivers express their thoughts, needs, and feelings in healthy and productive ways.  Others grow up learning more dysfunctional ways of communicating - or not communicating at… Continue reading It’s Not What You Say – It’s How You Say It

Career, Overwhelmed

Feeling Overwhelmed by a Goal

A common theme among my clients is a desire to make a change in life, but feeling uncertain how to create this change.  The overriding emotion in these situations is feeling overwhelmed.  It can be hard to know where to start.   You might feel like the task is too daunting.  You may have no idea… Continue reading Feeling Overwhelmed by a Goal