I’ve worked with several clients who have suffered lasting stress, depression, anxiety, and/or insecurity after leaving a job post with a terrible, abusive, bullying manager. The lasting effects of such a toxic environment, especially when it comes from someone in a position of leadership or authority can cause suffering long after leaving the position, carrying trauma over into your new position or workplace in the forms of emotional distress or learned defensive behavior – potentially impacting your relationships and success in your new position….
These experiences can having lasting effects on your mental health and capacity to perform at work that need to be addressed in order to move forward with your job/career in a healthy way.
If this sounds familiar and you find yourself the victim of an emotionally abusive or bullying situation at work, taking action is imperative. Here are some questions to ask yourself to decide what actions to take:
- Is there anyone you can report this behavior to? Consider whether another manager or HR representative is an option for discussing what you are experiencing.
- If you decide there is no one you feel comfortable sharing with, it’s important to take steps to leave the position for your own mental health and work success.
While changing your work situation is the ideal action, it’s not a simple thing to leave a job. Transitioning to a new position takes time in the best of worlds and most of the time, your rent, bills, food, and basic survival depends on you having a reliable paycheck. Because of this, you may not feel comfortable leaving immediately. This is totally understandable, and can add stress to an already stressful situation. The ideal step to take here is to seek active support immediately– via friends, family, co-workers, or counseling – while actively formulating a plan to make a change as soon as possible.
Click here for an informative article on identifying signs your past toxic job is impacting your current one.
Counseling can help you decide how to manage a traumatic work situation, process your experience, and take steps toward positive change.
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